Maintaining a good and healthy relationship is not the easiest walk in the park, as one must try to keep the balance and one’s partner should, too. Nevertheless, men can often experience a quiet disinterest in their partner the more times pass by. This blog article will discuss on six common problems that determine the actions of a man toward a relationship and suggest a solution that will help couples survive these hurdles.
👉Achieving goals
When it comes to physical intimacy, it's not uncommon for women and men to behave in opposite ways. Women feel a greater emotional connection and attraction. Although some men's love fades easily - especially after the first intimacy. It makes many people wonder: Why do men lose interest after sex?
The answer is quite simple, says psychologist Mark Rosenfeld. "No matter how a man behaves before the first sex, the real reason for losing interest after it is that he does not feel enough 'non-physical' attraction to you," the expert confirms.
In fact, there is a type of men who only aim for intimacy with a woman. If a guy isn't initially interested in you as a person, you shouldn't worry about him.
👉Desire to be alone with oneself
Many couples, especially those with young children, have little time for themselves. Some people try to isolate themselves by putting on headphones or switching off and diving into a TV show or their phone. If this is the case for you, the best course of action is to ask your partner if they need solitude and discuss how and when you can spend time apart from each other. It is best if the agreement is mutual and you have time for yourself.
👉Stress is the culprit
People often respond to high levels of stress and emotional distress with withdrawal. How to behave in such cases? If your partner has obvious stress in his professional or personal life, you should discuss with him the ways to reduce or cope with stress. If you think a man may be depressed, suggest that he consults a specialist.
👉Feelings are not the same
Is your partner not putting the time and effort into the relationship like they used to? Avoiding intimacy? Don't understand what happened? Don't start a fight, but choose a time to talk. Don't do it spontaneously so that the man can mentally prepare for the relationship discussion.
Ask how he feels about you and if there is anything he would like to change to feel happier. Before answering, make sure you fully understand his point of view (this is hard but important). If he is unwilling or unable to discuss ways to rekindle the relationship, you may want to consider couples therapy.
👉 The cycle of avoidance
A man thinks that you are dependent on him, so he takes a step back, which makes you anxious and afraid. These emotions immediately lead to a desire to find out what's wrong, which forces the partner to take another action, which only continues the cycle.
To determine if these dynamics are the culprit in a relationship crisis, take a temporary step and "need" a man a little less - at least for a week. If your partner responds by warming up and becoming more interested and approachable, you now know how to break this vicious cycle.
👉Cycle of Criticism and Suspension
Emotional distance from a partner often causes great pain. You may react to him with criticism or resentment, constantly signalling your dissatisfaction with your partner.
In this case, the person may withdraw even more, because he will fear that any attempt at interaction will lead to more criticism in such a relationship.
Make sure your communication with your spouse adheres to the 80/20 rule: at least 80% of it should be neutral or positive purposes and only 20% should be negative, to break this pattern.
Conclusion
But most importantly, talk and don't start fights, don't beat the dishes, don't immerse yourself in your thoughts. When you are discussing with your friends over a cup of coffee that a man is losing interest in women, you can quickly become one of them. Don't be afraid to talk about your feelings and experiences with your partner, but do so in moderation. And remember, anything can cause a man to lose interest, withdraw, or withdraw emotionally, and not just you. So always try to understand your partner before jumping to conclusions. This is very crucial in a relationship.